In continuation of last week’s article, say goodbye to exam fear which is easier said than done. The word exam itself creates uncomfortable feelings in the minds of everyone. When comes to public exam naturally it increases palpitation, unknown fear of future and induces stress for no reasons. The external sources create an indirect stressful environment for the student by saying don’t fear about the exams but focus on marks. The exam is all about marks. What are they trying to say?
Marks are unpredictable and its in the hand of the examiner. The most essential factor which is in the hands of a student is preparation and presentation. Prepare well for the exams. Irrespective of your preparations, you are bound to experience slight anxiety, fear of questions and answering pattern, time constraints, peer concerns and ultimately marks & marks only. This fear is quite common among anyone. Be it a topper or struggler. Consider this as a Performance Fear to give your best. It’s good to experience such fear to push us hard to achieve our goals in life.
Preparation is a process. Each one’s process of understanding, recalling and reproducing it on the paper differs. Understand with the limited timing, its wise to revise the portions than reverse the process of learning. Two ways of revising the subject – set the score and channelize your learning or map the score based on your learning. When working in this way, you will feel much relaxed as aware of the expected outcome. Presentation is an art and finds your way. Follow the general guidelines and produce it in your style. When preparation and presentation are within your acceptance level then FEAR is of False Evidence Appearing Real.
Manage your emotions very well during this period as you would encounter different emotions. Parents need to be very supportive and require to understand them than giving advice or suggestion. They just need your acceptance and acknowledgment of their emotions. Give them space and encourage them to move on. Never bring the past incidents such as I told you then only, you didn’t listen and now what to do. No point in feeling. You got it for what you did and the list is endless.
Need to understand this is not the end; its a beginning. The courses and college markets are wide open. It welcomes everyone with a broad smile and accommodates them for the person they are not for the credentials they have. Only the playground differs.
Active participation and involvement are very important. Winning or losing depends on the match. It doesn’t define them as a person. It just says, might be the preparation was not good enough, high competition may be the choice has to be reconsidered, require more training and so on. Probably that’s not their day. Their day is yet to come.
Let children feel their parent’s unconditional love for the person they are and not for the scores or pride they bring in to the family. Children need to realize that their parents give their best for them hoping you to do well in life and see you reaching heights. Each children’s playground and the match is different. Let’s prepare them for their life and winning is optional.
Chellam Narendiran
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