People are good and sensitive in their ways. When comes to helping people they feel much accountable in supporting them and more responsible and touching towards pet. They have care and concern for both but the priorities vary at times. It’s always between people vs pet and pet vs people. The preference for pet is higher for someone and people for someone. Eventually, both of them are helping to someone in their manners.
Similarly, the comparison between people vs people tops the list. It’s always between me vs you. It makes us wonder when decided to help why to have criteria in choosing a person or pet to help. Help is a Help! No matter who is at the receiving end! Though, the philosophy could be placed in a border category, not in meager or petty things. Have come across many people who wanted to help others but they are blindfolded in their thoughts. They are very cynical in choosing a person to help. Their genuineness and loyalty to helping someone is only for a person who fits their criteria. The others are always a question mark.
The whole objective of supporting becomes futile when people become judgemental in giving and receiving help. The intention of lending a hand is wise. But am I doing it at the right time for the right person without judging and thinking twice on other thoughts. Recently, heard a conversation in one of the public forum on helping to a common friend who was in some personal crisis. These people were discussing such petty things like will other friends like it, what will they say, should we not say, if I help him; he/she won’t speak to us, should we drop now and do it later and so on. Wondering, what’s the point in discussing so much when the purpose is to help someone? Are we helping a person or situation that demands someone’s help? A person is subjective and the situation is objective. Ideally, it’s the situiation of that person needs a help.
Most of the time, we are not sure about the situations someone is undergoing and feeling about it. No matter what the situation demands we are affixed with our thought process and become mute to the prevailing state. We are talking on the superficial layer of whether to help or not. Giving a piece of bread at the time of hunger and giving a feast when the tummy is full does make a huge difference. That’s what timely help makes a difference in someone’s life.
Helping a person when he needs at that point in time brings change in his life not after crossing that point. Even though, if he received after a certain point, it’s like a feast for him. Doesn’t hold a value or the purpose of helping doesn’t meet his necessity!
Also, people at the receiving end need to realize the person who is helping us is out of his own will not by compulsions. We should be great enough to accept his decisions on helping at any point, should be kind enough to say, appreciate your kindness but things have been pretty much better now. Thanks for your support. I would encourage lending your hand when people are in need than things have been settled.
Remember, Time and Tide wait for no man. Similarly, the situation doesn’t wait for anyone to come forward and help. It goes on its path and finds its way. When decided to help, be a volunteer in doing so. Understand the situation and emotions behind a person. It need not be conveyed but felt by a person for lending his hand.
Timely helping one person doesn’t change the world. It could change the world for that one person and makes a difference in their life. Such an act not only impacts their life; impact everyone influenced by him throughout their entire life. Each person can create a ripple effect in someone’s life no matter whether the act is small or big but timely help makes a person believe in humanity and do good for others.
Chellam Narendiran
+91-98433 14949
#happymind #happylife
Srijan Counselling Services
Helping Others Isn’t Important, But Timely Help Is More Important In One’s Life
